Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner PhD

“If you want to know why Harriet Lerner is one of my great heroes, Why Won’t You Apologize? is the answer. This book is a game changer.” —Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Rising Strong “Harriet Lerner is one hell of a wise woman. She draws you in with deft and engaging prose and then changes your life with her rigorous intelligence and her deeply human advice. I promise that you will never see ‘the apology’ in quite the same way.” —Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, author of Mating in Captivity Renowned psychologist and bestselling author of The Dance of Anger sheds new light on the power of a sincere apology—those two essential words, “I’m sorry”—and how apologizing can repair relationships, resolve conflict, and restore trust. In this insightful guide to emotional healing and relationship repair, Dr. Harriet Lerner offers a clear and compassionate perspective on why apologies are so difficult to give and why they matter so deeply. Dr. Harriet Lerner has been studying apologies—and why some people refuse to apologize—for more than two decades. Through compelling stories and grounded psychological insight, she shows how meaningful apologies can rebuild trust, repair damaged relationships, and promote genuine healing. Readers learn how to craft a heartfelt “I’m sorry,” recognize ineffective or manipulative apologies, and avoid the kinds of apologies that deepen hurt instead of resolving it. Read more