Attachment Theory: A Guide to Strengthening the Relationships in Your Life by Thais Gibson

Build powerful current and future relationships by understanding your past In order to improve closeness and intimacy in all relationships, it is important to first understand the clear parallels between adult behavior and childhood experiences. Attachment Theory combines traditional teachings with knowledge of subconscious patterns to provide powerful tools for powerful change. Through interactive quizzes, wrap-up summaries, and real strategies you can implement in your daily life, you'll learn the tools needed to reprogram the outdated beliefs causing chaos in your life and relationships―romantic, platonic, or familial. Inside Attachment Theory, you'll find: What's your style?―Begin with the 4 basic attachment theory styles―Dismissive-Avoidant, Fearful-Avoidant, Anxious Attachment, and Secure Attachment. The best methods―Using the 3 primary forms of therapy―Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and RAIN (Recognition, Acceptance, Investigation, Non-Identification)―you'll begin to reprogram your subconscious mind. Read more

From the Publisher A few of the many topics covered in the book: According to the Association for Child and Adolescent Mental Health (ACAMH), attachment theory is widely used by doctors, lawyers, politicians, and teachers alike. Since it helps to describe the relationship between parenting and subsequent development, it is useful in a variety of fields where predicting and understanding behavior is necessary. While the Secure and Anxious relationship can have its challenges, this duo often works well together after the initial pain points are worked through. The Anxious partner can be very needy and insecure at first. They put themselves down and put their partner on a pedestal. The Secure partner is available to give the positive reinforcement and validation that the anxious partner craves. Over time, with emotional stability and reprogramming, many of the Anxious individual’s patterns will change to feelings of stability, and they will require less attention and support from the Secure partner. The first way to do this properly and intuitively is to find out what your needs truly are and then communicate them. Although this seems straightforward, this may mean different things to different attachment styles. The Dismissive-Avoidant, for example, needs clear communication. They get frustrated and withdraw when they are expected to read between the lines. To communicate clearly in a relationship, regardless of whether it is a friendship or a romantic relationship, begin by asking your partner what communication means to them. Also ask yourself what communication means to you.